This is quite the time, isn’t it. You’ve finished Netflix, there is no end to quarantine in sight, and you need some new quarantine activities to do with your partner. Too bad school didn’t prepare you for this.
Some people have taken up baking, others are refurbishing their music making skills, while a few are learning something completely new – like how the hell to just be by themselves.
If you’re cuffed, you may not have expected to ever get that bored. When your town went into lockdown you may have figured – wow, I’m so lucky cause I have a partner to spend all this extra time with. And there’s truth to that! BUT…. you’re now realizing that watching Tiger King and the Office (again) just might not cut it.
Let’s face it: most of us are experiencing some level of boredom in comparison to our “normal” lives. And it can be hard to think of new things to do when you’re stuck in this rut. But don’t worry: we’re here to help. Here are 10 fun couples ideas for your stay-at-home life:
If there was ever a right time to feel pampered, it’s riiiiight about now. Do you long for hands to knead into your back muscles and take the pandemic-stress away? Well, if your partner has hands, why not ask them to help you fulfill this dream? You may already give each other casual massages every now and then, but you can make it a full on event by creating a true Spa-like vibe.
Put on soothing music, light up/spray a nice scent to flow through the air, and change the lighting with different lamps or candles. Then you’ll be ready to give each other back massages, neck massages, foot massages, and beyond. Use oil or lotion to take your skills up a notch. And most importantly, if you and your partner aren’t professional masseuses, lower your expectations and just have a fun time making each other feel as good as possible: it’s the thought that counts!
And the good thing about this quarantine activity with your partner is that you may actually get a “happy ending” if that’s where you both want to go! ;P
And speaking of sexy scenarios…
You can’t go out but you can dream right. And you can also turn that dream into action with a little imaginative play! It’s the perfect time to add some (or more) role play into your sex life. Someone could play a bartender and the other a bar guest (or pre-make drinks and both can “walk into a bar”). You can also choose literally anywhere else to “be”. Get creative, have fun, and most importantly – don’t take yourself too seriously!
If you’ve ever done a regular (live) Airbnb Experience during your travels, you’ll know that the purpose is for someone familiar with the destination to introduce you to a certain aspect of that place and/or culture – be it a location in town, music, food/cooking, dance, etc. They are always interactive and often come with an interesting history lesson as well.
Now that live Airbnb Experiences aren’t possible, many Experience Hosts have taken their cultural lessons and turned them into virtual experiences that you can join from anywhere! They’re even more accessible than they were before – because you don’t have to be in Argentina or Japan or South Africa – and may be just as interesting and immersive. It’s a great way to have a “date night” right on your couch, and meet people from different parts of the world while you’re at it!
If you’re new to Airbnb, you can use this code during sign up to get $55 off a future stay! Discount once you can travel again? Yes, please.
There are likely some things that each partner knows how to do well that the other simply does not. It’s great to have separate interests, as it fosters a sense of self-identify as you continue to share more and more of your life. But there’s no harm in choosing something that can be done at home to teach the other person for fun! You could give each other lessons on dance, cooking, swimming if you have a pool, poetry, drawing, and a multitude of other things! The best part? The lessons will be F-R-E-E.
If you have a common skill or shared artistic talent – even better. You can skip the teaching part and move on to the creation! Choreograph a dance (not reserved for weddings!), write a song, paint a picture, photograph things (or yourselves) around the home to create a quarantine collage. The options are endless, and the opportunity and time you have to create something together right now may be unique – so take advantage of it!
This sounds super simple, but it’s also the basis of why John and I started this whole website. We realized that our love of asking each other questions, even ones we’ve asked years ago, revealed so much and continued to bring us closer as we grew and changed overtime. In the stagnancy of your stay-at-home life right now, I encourage you to gather a list of questions (any length, be it 3 or 50) and ask your partner to do the same.
Take out an appropriate amount of time, to alternative asking each other questions from your list. It’s one of those things that sound basic or even unnecessary (like staring into each other’s eyes for 5 minutes) but will certainly reveal something new. And anything new is welcome at this point, am I right?? You can come up with the list of questions yourself or use one of our question-asking articles, such as ______.
You love your partner I’m sure, but it is nice to see other people too. If you want to spend quality time with your partner but also have more to discuss than just the same shit you already see each other doing all day, how about set up a double date with mutual friends over zoom? You can make it fancy or fun, pour wine or play a game. What’s important is all coming in with the same intention and perhaps a specific end time so it’s not awkward when one party wants to call it quits. Trust us, it’ll be better than bowling anyways.
Add some friendly competition to your love life! If you’ve had a competitive itch you haven’t been able to scratch because your not-so-pandemic-friendly weekly basketball games are cancelled, try downloading Jackbox and checking out the best 2-player games. We ordered Party Pack 3 (includes Trivia Murder Party and Guesspionage) then added Fibbage as a standalone game. (And if your relationship is polyamorous, lucky you all – you have even more options of games!)
You can even turn it up a notch by instilling your own rules, e.g. whoever loses has to do the dishes or whoever wins gets a 10-minute massage wherever they like.
Competitions are exciting, but it’s nice to work on something together as well. The best part about a good, high-number-count puzzle is that it’s a therapeutic quarantine activity that you don’t have to do in one sitting; rather, it’s something you can keep coming back to over a number of days, whenever you need a break from your computer screen, or your phone, or your thoughts, or even each other. #justkeepingitreal
We know. You can’t fly to the Maldives this summer. But what you CAN do is still daydream, and write those daydreams down, and turn them into actual plans for the future. Things *will* go back to some semblance of normal at some point in time and travel *will* still be a booming industry. We’re talking about humans here people, we need to move around! If you’re a planner, you already know that planning a trip can be half the fun of it anyways. And if you’re not, feel free to let us do the work so that you and your partner can simply focus on the daydreaming and excitement part.
We hope this helps you be less “bored in the house and in the house bored”. Feel free to add more suggestions in the comment section!
Loving the old; exploring the new,